The beauty in loving yourself.

It sure comes with a lot of effort and energy put into it. When do you know you love yourself? It is the hard question that we all have to answer to ourselves. Some of us think we love ourselves enough but in real life, when analysed, its not even half the percentage. They say you have to love yourself first before letting someone else love you or allowing someone else to love you. If this does not happen, then you will always feel like something is missing from the other person. You will always strive for perfection which is very impossible. Loving yourself comes with some sort of thinking of your own interests first before others but make sure you do not end up forgetting those close and around you and hurting them with too much selfishness. Mind about their happiness too.

I used to struggle with this a lot of times when it came to the people I loved, that includes family and friends. My whole happiness depended on them full time. If they were not happy I also would not afford to be happy. But lucky enough, it came to my realization early enough that I do not have to suffer just because everyone around is yet the misery is not meant for me. From then on, I think about myself first before getting involved in someone else mess. That does not also mean I do not share in their sad times, I do but I just don't allow it to overwhelm me as if it were my struggles. We all have things we struggle with and that is life. And I think when it comes to relationships, this is the one thing that most of us do not want to understand.

We are so quick in wanting the other person to understand us when we ourselves cannot bend our rules and compromise for their sake. Where self love comes in is that, with enough personal love we won't allow our troubles to destroy us in any way and when we are able to deal with our issues it makes it easy to love. Let's all strive to attain self love. Do not wait to be complimented by other people, don't wait upon their approval it won't do you any good. Trust me in this, do your thing and live your life the way you know best. It will help build your confidence. You just have to believe that you are the best version of yourself. But there is something else called criticism and most of us do not know how to handle it, myself being guilty. You know that comment that someone just makes out of nowhere when you are in a group of people or even sometimes just the two of you but the way it comes out, you feel like you have just been dropped in a basket of thorns. The pain goes through your veins and you cannot help but keep thinking about that one silly comment throughout the whole of your day. And to some point that kinda changes the way you feel about yourself to some point and in some other cases it lowers the self esteem. I am not a therapist or anything but I believe when we love ourselves enough something like this won't happen and we sure won't allow it to get through us. One thing we have to consider is learning ways to do so.

Taking care of our beauty and doing some grooming is definitely the first step. Associate yourself with positive vibes. Listening to Alessia Cara's Scars to your beautiful helps you realize that you should be thankful and grateful for your beauty because everyone differs in their own way. Stop comparing yourself to others around you. Beauty comes when you start loving yourself. You deserve that happiness that comes with you appreciating yourself do it more often.

As always, in style we confide. It never fails us. Choose yours and learn to love yourself in it.

Regards, keep safe always.